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I welcome all newcomers and novices to the BDSM world and am happy to help out anyone that needs My advice. 

First, of course you have to have a genuine interest in the craft, being sure that no one is dragging you into something that you do not want to do.

Second, have an open mind and never judge anyone’s fetish, whatever it is. Just because you are not into… ’nuff said.

Third, be prepared to get the “tools” needed to do the job. Most of these items are expensive. Just remember, you get what you pay for. I always say, “Cheap items are not good. Good items are not cheap.”

I wanted to share My favorite BDSM toys and gear I think are essential for any “kit” in an easy format. Everyone has to start somewhere, this is a BDSM toy guide for anyone starting a collection. Whether you are a domestic Dominatrix in training, a couple looking to spice things up or a loyal sub with dreams of having the perfect toy kit. This list is for you. 

Strap-on Harness

Every Dominatrix needs a good harness that fits well, is comfortable and gets the job done right. For the beginning Dominatrix you might think “I will get an all in one outfit” but this is a mistake. A Strap-on kit usually comes with a nylon strap harness and dildo(s) that are, at best, so-so (usually too big or too small.) It may take a while to figure out what you like best. One of My favorites is a leather thong harness that can be converted and has the leather treated so it’s easy to clean and doesn’t break down over time. Try Extreme Restraints.

Dildos

It will take a while for anyone who is a beginner Dominatrix to figure out what kind of dildos they like but I recommend materials that are body safe over jelly toys or PVC. I think it’s important to make sure it’s easy to clean/cover as well. Tantusinc.com has a great selection of toys to choose from that come in a variety of colors and sizes. 

Restraints

Restraints are very personal in their appeal. Maybe you’re a leather fan, or perhaps you enjoy the art of rope bondage. For example, you can use rope to tie a set of handcuffs or create a cuff that you can attach anywhere. I began with rope and still find its meditative process to be grounding and a great way of building energy and anticipation within the scene. Leather cuffs are kind of generic and don’t require a lot of skill to use, but they are a great way for beginners to get started and are a sure way of keeping your sub from getting “loose.”

Impact Toys

What is classic and unforgettable? The mental image of a Dominatrix with the whip, right? It is, however; learning to use a whip that takes a lot of practice. I suggest starting with something like a riding crop, paddle, cane or flogger first. These toys come in many different shapes and sizes. I suggest you get many different types and experiment. 

 Sensory play Toys

Ahh, sensory play. There are so many different ways you can go with this. Pinwheels, soft floggers, electro play, blindfolds… It all depends on the vibe of the scene. Sensory play increases suspense when you use it to build a scene or it can push the experience over the top. You can’t go wrong with a Pinwheel and blindfold, honestly. I like playing the game of keeping Myself using many random toys and seeing how much I can do with them.

Hoods and Masks

Hoods and such aren’t for everyone, some people feel very claustrophobic in them but I think they are a great tool to have in your tool kit. You can surprise someone with sensations, (sensory play,) or you can take complete control of them. Personally, I like all hood types. Hoods with holes for the mouth and eyes, hoods with no holes, or a mix of them all. Masks do the same and are a great way to start before moving on to a hood.

Nipple play 

Surprisingly, many don’t know about the benefits of exploring nipple play. Nipples are an unfortunately overlooked erogenous zone. I like to warm up with plastic clothes pins which are easily cleanable. If you want to leave the realm of sensory exploration, you can make them squirm with a strong set of clover clamps.

Gags  

Is your sub too noisy? Plug their mouth with a gag to really make them feel helpless! I like ball gags personally but a good dental gag or even a ring gag has a place in My dungeon. I love versatility in all My toys so I find a good collection to be a perfect fit.

Paddles

How will your sub(s) know that you mean business unless you can really give them a good, hard spanking? I have a variety of paddles in many different kinds of wood, and yes the wood makes a difference as it hits differently. More importantly, I have yet to break a wooden paddle. (Canes are different of course.)

A Collar

Another great way to show your sub ownership! Many subs have told Me how a collar has had a profound, emotional impact on them. Why not use that power to control them and pull them exactly into the headspace that you want? Lead them around and help them find their sub space by locking a collar on. A formal leather slave collar is wonderful but so is a dog collar. What is your preference? I think quality is very important, so over time you will want to get your sub a quality leather collar that they are proud to wear anywhere.

These are some of the items I suggest you purchase (or make them if you are on a budget,) to get started on a long and wonderfully fun and pleasurable journey. Experiment and get creative! Just make sure you have a good safe word and know how to use it…

I’ve been getting lots of emails and texts from subscribers and members asking Me which exercises, procedures and gadgets I would recommend for erectile performance and dysfunction. Things like jelqing?!? All sorts of things ranging from premature ejaculation, to not being able to get it up and keep it up.

Let Me just start by saying that NO over the counter pills or gadgets that you can buy from ANY website will ever work as advertised. You may, and I mean MAY get as much as a 10% gain in performance from these items but even that little bit is rare.

We are talking about an industry worth billions annually. (Erectile Dysfunction Market Size to Reach Revenues of USD 4.7 Billion by 2026 – Arizton.) 

Now, let me say that I understand and know how frustrating all of this can be. For some reason, its been driven in all men’s heads that they are inadequate when it comes to size and performance. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Men that think they are “small” are actually quite normal or “average.” Most of the problems that they are having is in their heads, (between their ears!,) and have nothing to do with their dicks. Believe Me, there are not many “monster cocks” out there, and the ones that are, can barely keep it up long enough to please a woman. (Actually, big dick guys have a very hard time keeping it up and staying that way. Trust Me, I know!)

I just don’t like to see you guys being taken advantage of and tossing your money out the window. I want to help you! So instead of wasting your time and money on products and exercise videos, email Me and we will discuss the problems you are having and I will get you started on the road to a better sexual experience. 

~Ashlee

As you all know, I have always been a Swinger at heart. Swinging was how I got into doing all of my websites and modeling. For a long time, I would always go to other swingers’ parties and have fun with lots of new people as well as old friends. It wasn’t long before I started having My own XXX fun parties and events!

Due to the Covid pandemic, my parties and events came to an end. Well NOT ANY MORE!

I want all of my faithful fans, followers and subscribers to know that I have decided to start my fun adult parties and events up again. I want to invite all of you along for the ride as well!

For my XXX parties, we will start by having a series of meet and greets. This will give everyone a chance to meet and get acquainted with each other. Send me an email and I’ll give you all the details. Do you have your own ideas for meet and greets and XXX parties that you would like for me to host for you? Contact me and we will set things up!

I also host many different types of events from fetish parties, birthday parties, bachelor / bachelorette parties, to name a few. Have other ideas?… Send me an email and we will discuss the details!

Email Me: support@AshleeChambers.com

I’m so excited! Can’t wait to let the fun begin again!!

Ashlee 😉

I have noticed a big shift in the way people are looking at the world of kink. Since the novels and movies “50 Shades of Gray,” BDSM is becoming more and more mainstream. What used to be kept hush hush and in the dark, has now become talked about out in the open and discussed in mainstream media. Participants in this “scene” tend to have in common an adventurous attitude and a high sex drive,(Me included!) There is wide variety within this community: some people merely incorporate some kinky practices into a private sexual life as a couple, while others live a total BDSM lifestyle. Recently a few voices within the mainstream sexology profession have begun not only to educate colleagues to “normalize” BDSM and fetish practices, but to also point out some of the striking sexually intelligent practices within this community – for example, the tremendous communication skills and the use of BDSM “scenes” for therapy and healing. Due to BDSM being so misunderstood in the past, people often experienced shame before coming out as BDSM participants. This is all changing as I am leading the way through private sessions with individuals of all sexual identities, and educating people through events, seminars and workshops!

A recent study showed that there are more people who engage in “kinky” sexual practices than there are people who identify as gay, straight, lesbian or bisexual. What I have found, is that kinky, fetish practices (BDSM) are found in all sexual relationships and the most common practice used by all in the world of BDSM is… Communication!

For inquiries, email Me at GoddessAshlee.com or call/text Me at 813-325-0956

During these trying times, it is easy to get caught up in all of the gloom and doom, and not realize that things are not so bad in life if you just make a few changes. You are not going to just stop watching porn and you are certainly not going to stop pleasuring yourself, right? All you need to do is get a little creative and change things up a bit.

I have always enjoyed listening to My faithful members / subscribers, by setting up roleplay scenes for them, and living out their fantasies so they can experience them with Me. Nowadays, we are staying at home more often and not able to see each other in person. Well, perhaps it’s not so bad if you have another way to get your kink on.

I have always offered cam shows and virtual shows but here lately, I have been getting more requests than I could have ever imagined. AND I LOVE IT!!!  Everyone is staying at home, and working from home and so am I!

All you need to do is set up a session with Me and we can get started. Just this morning, one of My loyal fans wanted a cam show to see how I started My day. We started our one-on-one cam show with Me getting out of bed and into the shower. He got to join in while I took a shower and he helped Me pick out the dildo I would use to make Myself cum several times. It was so HOT! Then we both got our coffee fix on while he helped Me pick out an outfit to wear to the gym, (no panties of course.) After the outfit, we made one of My power breakfasts and got that inside Me before I rubbed one out, one last time before heading out the door. (My huge clit is always sooo demanding and has to have ALL of the attention.) At the gym, people love it when I come in. I set up My tripod, mount My phone and show off My tight muscular body to My fan as he watches Me work out and cheers Me on. (My pussy gets so wet during My workouts!!)…

Be sure and check back later for part 2…

Kisses~ Ashlee Chambers

Are you a transgender, closet or active crossdresser or a sissy slut that is tired of being cooped up in the house? Do you long to pursue your dreams and become all of the woman you can be? I have been doing lots of sessions with guys that are longing to become sexy, passable ladies and sissy sluts. They were not sure how to get started in the right direction, or had been crossdressing but could not quite reach their goals. They finally contacted Me for a full transformation into the fem world. Now; many of you have been coming to Me from all over the country for My superior lady teaching skills. I have taken even the most hideous men and turned them into very passable dazzling dolls in just a few short hours. I often book solid on the weekends because all My “ladies” want to come by and have Me do their makeup, hair, nails and outfits; then help them brush up on their lady skills before they hit the town. Don’t delay! Get out of the house, (or closet,) and book a session with Me. Lets go over your dreams, desires and goals, and start your full transformation into the transgender / crossdresser world. All of My ‘ladies’ have had their dreams come true and now love their lives and themselves for making the right steps. The sooner you get started, the sooner you will become happy with the new you!

Contact Me now!

Email Me: Support@GoddessAshlee.com or Call/Text 813-325-0956

Goddess Ashlee~

How to avoid being Scammed – Fake Accounts, Flakes and Scammers

With the current trend of social media platforms, (Twitter, Instagram, Dating sites etc.) and no form of regulation or control, fake accounts and scammers are running rampid. Having said that, someone or several someones have taken to impersonating Me and many other FemDommes. They are using My image and information to steal from unsuspecting people like yourselves. As the old saying goes “Impersonation is the truest form of flattery,” but when someone is stealing from you and Me, its not flattering at all. Here are some ways to avoid having this happen to you. These tips will help you learn how to spot a fake FemDomme and avoid being scammed on social media and on dating sites.

Here is My only official contact information;

cell: 813-325-0956

emails: support@AshleeChambers.com / support@GoddessAshlee.com / Ashlee.Chambers@yahoo.com / GoddessAshlee@yahoo.com

Twitter: https://twitter.com/Ashlee_Chambers & https://twitter.com/GoddessAshlee

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Ashlee.Chambers.x.x.x/ & https://www.instagram.com/theofficialgoddessashlee/

Scammers are always really nice…

Scammers will always reach out to you first, butter you up and make you a lot of promises, comment on you posts, like them, and do what ever it takes to draw you in. Does this “FemDomme” sound amazing? Does she sound like your dream come true? Too good to be true? Is she sending you videos and pics? (Videos and pics without a watermark are a dead giveaway as the scammer cropped the watermark off.) Are you getting suspicious? Then you are right, she probably isn’t real. Why is she doing this? She is trying to draw you out, and it might be a while before she asks for money. But have no fear, she WILL ask! Scammers may even look and sound like the real thing. As long as you are aware and cautious, you can pick up on the scam before it coust you and money.

One of the key points on spotting a scammer is that they use a variation of My name or email address, changing a letter or number that might slip by you if you aren’t careful during your excitement to communicate. Also check for the “follower count” which will be a much lower number with little or no followers. Did the account find you or did you find it?!? If any of these are true then the account is FAKE and you are being scammed. I can tell you right now and you probably already know this but FemDommes do not reach out as we simply don’t have time, you have to find and contact us.

Always, always, ALWAYS reverse Google search the images in question.

This step is important! Learning how to spot a fake and find STOLEN images online is to reverse image search them. By doing this you can see where the images come up elsewhere and see other information about the images. See if a website pops up. Does the name match or is it slightly different? When was the photo published and by whom? See, with these tools you can spot a scam. Also, just FYI; FemDommes and others never change their names. Our names are our brands and we protect them fiercely. If something doesn’t match, then you have a fake FemDomme. Bottom line; if a person approaches you from any media platform or website that looks suspicious and asks you for money, you ARE being scammed.

Kink, Fetish or Swinger Dating sites;

In My experience, well over half of the profiles on these paid dating sites are fake. If the membership is free, most likely every account is fake. I’m on SDC.com (Google it.) I use it to keep up with My swinger friends and fuck buddies. But that is a different story for a different time. Check My other blogs for details. If you are on a dating site of any kind, be very careful as fakes and scammers troll for unsuspecting members looking for a hook up and will tell you anything you can imagine to win your trust. If you do find someone of interest, immediately insist on speaking on the phone to verify they are real before proceeding. If they stall for any reason… you guessed it, FAKE!

If you find a scammer or fake using My images or name…

Please take a screenshot of their profile link, any images they sent you, any conversations and any contact information on them. Send all that you can gather to; Support@AshleeChambers.comor Support@GoddessAshlee.com

Thank you 😉

Do Swingers have more fun?

Of course the answer right off the bat is Yes! I actually got My start in the adult industry from being a swinger and My websites are geared toward My fun in the swinging lifestyle. Being a member / subscriber to My websites will allow you to follow Me during all My fun and Swingers REALLY do have more fun! Many people that I have counseled have expressed an interest in swinging, but either have no idea on how to get started or they had a bad experience and stopped. Once you have created a strong bond with your mate, you have established a strong bond built on trust and respect, there is little that can hold you back from enjoying swinging.

I think that all couples (straight and LGBT) should and would have a great time swinging. Sharing their partner with someone else and watching them enjoy sex with a stranger is probably the most exciting sexual acts that anyone could experience. Many of us have fantasies that involve watching our partners with one, two or many more other playmates. Bringing others into our bedrooms for a night of exploring and acting out our most intimate desires is certainly right at the top of My fantasy list, as I’m sure it is with most of you.

The key is making sure that both you and your partner have a firm grasp on what it is that both of you expect. Things often never go as planned, but a good, strong relationship and a healthy dose of trust will usually get you over any obstacles you both might encounter. Always, always, always respect each other’s boundaries and never assume you know what each other is thinking. Talk about what you expect before the fun begins, then revisit the same talk after everyone has left will be paramount on your success as a swinger or swingers. I know some wonderful people that I have met as a swinger and we will always be friends… friends with benefits I might add… Visit Me on My websites and follow along in My adventures. Feel free to send Me your ideas for swinging and My videos.!

Let me explain to you why you should contact Me as your Dominatrix…

First of all, the number one rule when talking about fetishes is; Never make fun of anyone’s fetish! That said, there are more fetishes out there than any one person can count. As a matter of fact, each and every person on the planet has some sort of sexual fetish, (also known as a fantasy.) Most do not know, that what gets them off actually is a fetish. Let me explain;

In My travels and extensive experience, I have spoken and counseled many, many people about their sexuality. What I have found out, is that in almost every single person, their number one fetish began when they first came of age. Whatever they were doing when they first entered puberty, triggered their fondest fetish. Such as, their mommy was giving them a spanking and when it was over, their cock was rock hard, or their panties got wet. Now, they have a spanking fetish and they really get sexually aroused when someone spanks them.

Or, a young man watched their sister, her girlfriends and even his mother putting nail polish on their toes, he then realizes at that young age that he was fascinated by women’s feet. He would often offer to massage women’s feet to fuel his fantasies.

And the list goes on and on. Something else that needs to be mentioned, is that in most cases, these fantasies / fetishes are suppressed until these men become older because they are ashamed or afraid they will be laughed at. Usually after they have become bored with traditional sex, these fantasies / fetishes are brought back to light. Many people (heterosexual, gay, and lesbian) that have boring relationships and not so boring relationships, have contacted Me as their Dominatrix to carry out these fetishes. Also, people that find their fetish embarrassing to them and would never mention the fetish to any of their sex partners, will seek Me out to fulfill their fantasies or fetish.

So how do you contact Me…?  Call / text Me, 813-325-0956 or fill out My slave application through My website: https://GoddessAshlee.com/slave-application

I want to hear about your kinkiest thoughts and fetishes! Book a session with Me and confess!

New Year 2020

We have had great times in the past years but the New Year 2020 will be even better! Thank you for being such a great fan and a special shout out to all My loyal Members!

I have added a lot of new and kinky furniture devices to My Dallas Dungeon collection and can’t wait to use them on you! Also, Mistress Daria and I have started a brand new club for Crossdressing Enthusiasts as well as the novice Crossdressers. Its call “Dazzling Dolz Club” (DazzlingDolzClub.com) and we are hosting our very first event on Feb 1st! For details, email Me through My DazzlingDolzClub.com website!

I have a lot of new and exciting parties and events planned for the coming New Year in addition to all the usual fun and perks from the past. Yes, I have even more new perks for My websites as well as FREE tips and advice about all the things you might be curious about!

I have plans on visiting many new cities this year! Be sure and send Me your existing or new email address so that My files are current and up to date. I want to keep you informed of all the new things that are happening!

Check My travel dates and schedule as I am adding new travel plans weekly. Also, I am hosting many new private events and I would love to send you special private invites! These can include Swinger parties, BDSM parties, Alt. Lifestyle as well as gay and lesbian parties and many more just to name a few. Get an invite and be My special guest! Lets make 2020 the funnest and kinkiest year yet!

Email Me at: Support@AshleeChambers.com Send Me any ideas that you have and lets put them in the schedule for the year!

Goddess Ashlee