Tag Archive: BDSM


I welcome all newcomers and novices to the BDSM world and am happy to help out anyone that needs My advice. 

First, of course you have to have a genuine interest in the craft, being sure that no one is dragging you into something that you do not want to do.

Second, have an open mind and never judge anyone’s fetish, whatever it is. Just because you are not into… ’nuff said.

Third, be prepared to get the “tools” needed to do the job. Most of these items are expensive. Just remember, you get what you pay for. I always say, “Cheap items are not good. Good items are not cheap.”

I wanted to share My favorite BDSM toys and gear I think are essential for any “kit” in an easy format. Everyone has to start somewhere, this is a BDSM toy guide for anyone starting a collection. Whether you are a domestic Dominatrix in training, a couple looking to spice things up or a loyal sub with dreams of having the perfect toy kit. This list is for you. 

Strap-on Harness

Every Dominatrix needs a good harness that fits well, is comfortable and gets the job done right. For the beginning Dominatrix you might think “I will get an all in one outfit” but this is a mistake. A Strap-on kit usually comes with a nylon strap harness and dildo(s) that are, at best, so-so (usually too big or too small.) It may take a while to figure out what you like best. One of My favorites is a leather thong harness that can be converted and has the leather treated so it’s easy to clean and doesn’t break down over time. Try Extreme Restraints.

Dildos

It will take a while for anyone who is a beginner Dominatrix to figure out what kind of dildos they like but I recommend materials that are body safe over jelly toys or PVC. I think it’s important to make sure it’s easy to clean/cover as well. Tantusinc.com has a great selection of toys to choose from that come in a variety of colors and sizes. 

Restraints

Restraints are very personal in their appeal. Maybe you’re a leather fan, or perhaps you enjoy the art of rope bondage. For example, you can use rope to tie a set of handcuffs or create a cuff that you can attach anywhere. I began with rope and still find its meditative process to be grounding and a great way of building energy and anticipation within the scene. Leather cuffs are kind of generic and don’t require a lot of skill to use, but they are a great way for beginners to get started and are a sure way of keeping your sub from getting “loose.”

Impact Toys

What is classic and unforgettable? The mental image of a Dominatrix with the whip, right? It is, however; learning to use a whip that takes a lot of practice. I suggest starting with something like a riding crop, paddle, cane or flogger first. These toys come in many different shapes and sizes. I suggest you get many different types and experiment. 

 Sensory play Toys

Ahh, sensory play. There are so many different ways you can go with this. Pinwheels, soft floggers, electro play, blindfolds… It all depends on the vibe of the scene. Sensory play increases suspense when you use it to build a scene or it can push the experience over the top. You can’t go wrong with a Pinwheel and blindfold, honestly. I like playing the game of keeping Myself using many random toys and seeing how much I can do with them.

Hoods and Masks

Hoods and such aren’t for everyone, some people feel very claustrophobic in them but I think they are a great tool to have in your tool kit. You can surprise someone with sensations, (sensory play,) or you can take complete control of them. Personally, I like all hood types. Hoods with holes for the mouth and eyes, hoods with no holes, or a mix of them all. Masks do the same and are a great way to start before moving on to a hood.

Nipple play 

Surprisingly, many don’t know about the benefits of exploring nipple play. Nipples are an unfortunately overlooked erogenous zone. I like to warm up with plastic clothes pins which are easily cleanable. If you want to leave the realm of sensory exploration, you can make them squirm with a strong set of clover clamps.

Gags  

Is your sub too noisy? Plug their mouth with a gag to really make them feel helpless! I like ball gags personally but a good dental gag or even a ring gag has a place in My dungeon. I love versatility in all My toys so I find a good collection to be a perfect fit.

Paddles

How will your sub(s) know that you mean business unless you can really give them a good, hard spanking? I have a variety of paddles in many different kinds of wood, and yes the wood makes a difference as it hits differently. More importantly, I have yet to break a wooden paddle. (Canes are different of course.)

A Collar

Another great way to show your sub ownership! Many subs have told Me how a collar has had a profound, emotional impact on them. Why not use that power to control them and pull them exactly into the headspace that you want? Lead them around and help them find their sub space by locking a collar on. A formal leather slave collar is wonderful but so is a dog collar. What is your preference? I think quality is very important, so over time you will want to get your sub a quality leather collar that they are proud to wear anywhere.

These are some of the items I suggest you purchase (or make them if you are on a budget,) to get started on a long and wonderfully fun and pleasurable journey. Experiment and get creative! Just make sure you have a good safe word and know how to use it…

I’ve been getting lots of emails and texts from subscribers and members asking Me which exercises, procedures and gadgets I would recommend for erectile performance and dysfunction. Things like jelqing?!? All sorts of things ranging from premature ejaculation, to not being able to get it up and keep it up.

Let Me just start by saying that NO over the counter pills or gadgets that you can buy from ANY website will ever work as advertised. You may, and I mean MAY get as much as a 10% gain in performance from these items but even that little bit is rare.

We are talking about an industry worth billions annually. (Erectile Dysfunction Market Size to Reach Revenues of USD 4.7 Billion by 2026 – Arizton.) 

Now, let me say that I understand and know how frustrating all of this can be. For some reason, its been driven in all men’s heads that they are inadequate when it comes to size and performance. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Men that think they are “small” are actually quite normal or “average.” Most of the problems that they are having is in their heads, (between their ears!,) and have nothing to do with their dicks. Believe Me, there are not many “monster cocks” out there, and the ones that are, can barely keep it up long enough to please a woman. (Actually, big dick guys have a very hard time keeping it up and staying that way. Trust Me, I know!)

I just don’t like to see you guys being taken advantage of and tossing your money out the window. I want to help you! So instead of wasting your time and money on products and exercise videos, email Me and we will discuss the problems you are having and I will get you started on the road to a better sexual experience. 

~Ashlee

I have noticed a big shift in the way people are looking at the world of kink. Since the novels and movies “50 Shades of Gray,” BDSM is becoming more and more mainstream. What used to be kept hush hush and in the dark, has now become talked about out in the open and discussed in mainstream media. Participants in this “scene” tend to have in common an adventurous attitude and a high sex drive,(Me included!) There is wide variety within this community: some people merely incorporate some kinky practices into a private sexual life as a couple, while others live a total BDSM lifestyle. Recently a few voices within the mainstream sexology profession have begun not only to educate colleagues to “normalize” BDSM and fetish practices, but to also point out some of the striking sexually intelligent practices within this community – for example, the tremendous communication skills and the use of BDSM “scenes” for therapy and healing. Due to BDSM being so misunderstood in the past, people often experienced shame before coming out as BDSM participants. This is all changing as I am leading the way through private sessions with individuals of all sexual identities, and educating people through events, seminars and workshops!

A recent study showed that there are more people who engage in “kinky” sexual practices than there are people who identify as gay, straight, lesbian or bisexual. What I have found, is that kinky, fetish practices (BDSM) are found in all sexual relationships and the most common practice used by all in the world of BDSM is… Communication!

For inquiries, email Me at GoddessAshlee.com or call/text Me at 813-325-0956

Let me explain to you why you should contact Me as your Dominatrix…

First of all, the number one rule when talking about fetishes is; Never make fun of anyone’s fetish! That said, there are more fetishes out there than any one person can count. As a matter of fact, each and every person on the planet has some sort of sexual fetish, (also known as a fantasy.) Most do not know, that what gets them off actually is a fetish. Let me explain;

In My travels and extensive experience, I have spoken and counseled many, many people about their sexuality. What I have found out, is that in almost every single person, their number one fetish began when they first came of age. Whatever they were doing when they first entered puberty, triggered their fondest fetish. Such as, their mommy was giving them a spanking and when it was over, their cock was rock hard, or their panties got wet. Now, they have a spanking fetish and they really get sexually aroused when someone spanks them.

Or, a young man watched their sister, her girlfriends and even his mother putting nail polish on their toes, he then realizes at that young age that he was fascinated by women’s feet. He would often offer to massage women’s feet to fuel his fantasies.

And the list goes on and on. Something else that needs to be mentioned, is that in most cases, these fantasies / fetishes are suppressed until these men become older because they are ashamed or afraid they will be laughed at. Usually after they have become bored with traditional sex, these fantasies / fetishes are brought back to light. Many people (heterosexual, gay, and lesbian) that have boring relationships and not so boring relationships, have contacted Me as their Dominatrix to carry out these fetishes. Also, people that find their fetish embarrassing to them and would never mention the fetish to any of their sex partners, will seek Me out to fulfill their fantasies or fetish.

So how do you contact Me…?  Call / text Me, 813-325-0956 or fill out My slave application through My website: https://GoddessAshlee.com/slave-application

I want to hear about your kinkiest thoughts and fetishes! Book a session with Me and confess!

New Year 2020

We have had great times in the past years but the New Year 2020 will be even better! Thank you for being such a great fan and a special shout out to all My loyal Members!

I have added a lot of new and kinky furniture devices to My Dallas Dungeon collection and can’t wait to use them on you! Also, Mistress Daria and I have started a brand new club for Crossdressing Enthusiasts as well as the novice Crossdressers. Its call “Dazzling Dolz Club” (DazzlingDolzClub.com) and we are hosting our very first event on Feb 1st! For details, email Me through My DazzlingDolzClub.com website!

I have a lot of new and exciting parties and events planned for the coming New Year in addition to all the usual fun and perks from the past. Yes, I have even more new perks for My websites as well as FREE tips and advice about all the things you might be curious about!

I have plans on visiting many new cities this year! Be sure and send Me your existing or new email address so that My files are current and up to date. I want to keep you informed of all the new things that are happening!

Check My travel dates and schedule as I am adding new travel plans weekly. Also, I am hosting many new private events and I would love to send you special private invites! These can include Swinger parties, BDSM parties, Alt. Lifestyle as well as gay and lesbian parties and many more just to name a few. Get an invite and be My special guest! Lets make 2020 the funnest and kinkiest year yet!

Email Me at: Support@AshleeChambers.com Send Me any ideas that you have and lets put them in the schedule for the year!

Goddess Ashlee

 

 

New Year 2020

Thank you for being such a great fan and a special shout out to all My loyal Members! We have had great times in the past years but the New Year 2020 will be even better! I have lots of new and exciting parties and events planned for the coming New Year in addition to all the usual fun and perks from the past. Yes, I have even more new perks for My websites as well as FREE tips and advice about all the things you might be curious about!

I have plans on visiting lots of new cities this year! Be sure and send Me your existing or new email address so that My files are current and up to date. I want to keep you informed of all the new things that are happening!

Check My travel dates and schedule as I am adding new travel plans weekly. Also, I am hosting many new private events and I would love to send you special private invites! These can include Swinger parties, BDSM parties, Alt. Lifestyle as well as gay and lesbian parties and many more just to name a few. Get an invite and be My special guest! Lets make 2020 the funnest and kinkiest year yet!

Email Me at: Support@AshleeChambers.com Send Me any ideas that you have and lets put them in the schedule for the year!

Ashlee Chambers~

Ashlee Chambers Holiday 2020

I am a naturally dominant woman and instinctively drawn to control men. I am a Pro Domme and a Fetish Model. I require My subjects to obey and have a deep interest in serving. The right to worship Me must be earned. I also love to be pampered by male pets, who can caress every desire I have in domestic and financial areas.

As you can see, I am incredibly physical and love working out.

I’m a Responsible, Strict, Disciplinarian. Domination is not an act for Me, it is a part of my personality that has always been there for as long as I can remember. I discovered a place where I could embrace My dominance and that a dominant female should be cherished and worshiped. For Me this is a profession that I have chosen and love. A sophisticated lady blessed with sultry exotic looks and a classic, hourglass pin up figure. Don’t be fooled by My demure appearance – My penetrating green eyes will break you down, lead you astray and miss nothing.

I seek perfection. I demand Respect, Worship and Strict obedience.  My manner is extremely Dominant and Controlling without being cold or harsh.  I do not scream, yell or insult the intelligence or physical shortcomings of My submissives.  I am a sensual sadist and can be cruel but I am also understanding to the needs of the novice. So for those of you with little experience, I can gently guide you into the depth of your submission and you will find that submission comes easily. However, for those more seasoned players,  I can be hard and demanding.

I am Far from your average Domina next door. I’m very beautiful, erotic and intense. Yes, I look exactly like My pictures. I actually look and always feel like a GODDESS, not just calling Myself one. I am very feminine and elegant. My body is absolutely intoxicating, measuring 34EE-22-34.  I have My own Dungeon and several websites.

COME BE APART OF MY QUEENDOM~ http://goddessashlee.com/join-now

Come be My Plaything~

February 2012 ~ Naked Girls Workout

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Ever been at the gym and saw a couple of really hot chicks working out? You keep staring and hoping to get a glimpse up their shorts or maybe down their shirt. Imagine if they were totally naked and let you watch all you wanted. Well… now is your chance! Check out Darkside Milinda and Me workoout naked in the gym! Guess what we do for each other at the end…

Darkside Milinda and Me working out in the gym!

 

 

 

 

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I had been teasing one of My out of town cucks all day and decided to have him listen in while I had one of My BBC’s pound My tight little pussy. The BBC knocked on My door right when he was supposed to, as I had the cuck on the phone waiting. The BBC pounded and stretched My little box while My cuckold patiently listened and imagined what was going on….

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One of My fans had an “Office” fantasy and asked if I would make a video. He sent Me the script and wanted My “Boss” to fuck Me on his desk. I love role-play and, of course I’ll do anything for My fans. Lock your door, get your cock out and stroke it while you watch Me get pounded doggy style! My “Boss” bends this Sluty Secretary over and has his way with My tight, wet pussy before he unloads his hot cum all over My…